What To Do If You Feel Like Everyone Hates You

People have a tendency to want to be well-liked. It just feels good to know we are appreciated and wanted. Nevertheless, the world is full of people with diverse opinions and the chances that everyone will just agree on liking the same person is at or near an impossible level. That said, part of being a mature person is to accept the fact that you may not like everyone you meet but you still try your best to like them or try your best to get along with people who you may feel don’t like you.

Your efforts may not always be successful because some people might just close off to you if they don’t like you but you can try. Note: do this within reason because you also shouldn’t be going out of your way to get approval –especially from someone who seems to not like you.

Ultimately, being liked and disliked are normal, but some people may go through life feeling that they are completely hated or disliked. If this is you, you might feel that everyone or almost everyone hates you. Your reasons for this could be many. You might base it off of their treatment of you or on count of hunches alone. Regardless of where you get this feeling from it might be uncomfortable but is most likely untrue. A lot of times, this feeling that the world around you hates you or is out to get you just is not legitimate or grounded in any reality.

Regardless, feeling this way may cause you emotional pain. If you feel like everyone dislikes you or just plain hates you then you may benefit from this advice.

How to deal with feeling like everyone hates you

1. Understand that probably not everyone hates you

The reality is it is almost impossible that every single person you have even briefly encountered hates you. So long as you don’t do anything ridiculous to people like hurl insults, annoy them or compromise their safety in any way, it would be odd (although not impossible) of them to hate you. This is why the word “everyone” is most likely a stretch here.

There is also a good chance your evidence for assuming everyone hates you is weak and unconvincing. Has everyone said they hate you? Probably not (and if they did then keep reading because that is addressed here). Don’t take a feeling as absolute proof that you are hated. This feeling could stem from inner insecurities or sensitivity, as well. If that’s the case then you may want to focus on resolving these mental states. Someone could actually have hatred for themselves but be thinking “Why does everyone hate me?” Inner hatred ends up being projected outwards. In that situation you should learn to build your self-confidence and appreciate yourself to resolve inner insecurities.

2. Remember that hatred happens

Now, saying that feeling hated may just be a feeling is fine but it is also possible that some people out there really do hate you. But there are a lot of hated people in the world. You are not guaranteed immunity from being hated for any reason and if you are indeed hated by one person, many people or almost everyone, you are in good company. Great people turn hatred against them into something positive. Take that energy and use it for good. It’s not likely that everyone will like you even if you are a great person. So don’t bother trying to get everyone on your side. Make an effort to be decent, kind and helpful and whatever people think is up to them.

3. Don’t allow your happiness to be dependent on other people

Even if the world hated you and you had done nothing wrong, what would you do about it? Are you going to ask them politely to stop disliking you? You can try it if you’re in that position but it’s not going to work on everyone. You should never allow your happiness to be dependent on other people, their opinions or their treatment of you. If you can’t control everyone’s free will then by making your happiness dependent on them you are giving them power over it. Your ultimate goal should be to find sustainable and independent happiness –not a fragile one determine by the sentiments of others.

4. Build a more resilient mindset

If you feel hated, you may also feel like you want to just give up on making friends or really doing just about anything in this hyper-social world. This is an incorrect choice because you are forbidding yourself from doing the things you should do or that you may want to do. And for what? Because you feel disliked? Stop caring, move on and build a tougher mindset. Remember, there is almost a guarantee that there is a person or persons out there who mesh with you and would love being around you. Still, maybe not everyone or not anyone meshes with you, but don’t let that stop you. The ability to move forward despite odds stacked against you is an admirable and useful skill.

5. Be your own friend (and take care of yourself!)

Whether everyone hates you or not, ultimately there is one person who should always be there for you: you. That’s right. Other people may hate you or they may love you but one thing that should remain true is you should love yourself. First off, this increases the chance people will become more attracted to your personality. Second, even if you opt for being alone then you will be able to find happiness with yourself. Keep yourself entertained. Go out on one-person dates and get into doing things you enjoy alone. Take care of yourself and find ways to better yourself. Being your own best friend confers a lot of benefits and you might as well reap them.